“And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree from which I commanded you not to eat?” Then the man said, “The woman you put here with me-she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it”. Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate it”.”>Genesis 3:11-13.
The Biblical story goes like that. The story happened in the early days just after creation. Adam denied responsibility of his sin and instead blames his wife Eve for the sin. When God asks Eve, she also does not admit that she had caused her husband to sin but rather shifts the blame to the serpent. Throughout history of mankind, not many have had the honesty to admit that they did something wrongly but rather finds someone to blame for their mistake either a workmate, schoolmate, brother, sister or fellow church elder.
Many people have failed to succeed in their academic or professional life because they failed to take responsibility of their errors. This is even evident in our political leaders. Whenever something does not work the way they thought it would, they throw the blame on their predecessor. This makes them not to focus on the way forward on how to solve the current crisis resulting in creating more troubles than those at hand.
Not only in the political circles is this thing common, the blame ‘disease’ occurs even in sports. When a team fails to perform the management will put the blame on the technical panel for failing to carry out their duties while the technical panel will throw back the blame to the management citing the team’s poor performance is due to shortage of finances and other privileges which are given to other clubs in the same league. It goes on the supporters blaming the players while the players blame the supporters for lack of morale to boost them when playing. All this has one result, and that is more deterioration of the team’s performance.
Another practical example is of my very good friend, when asked “Why did you fail the examination?” the only answer she gave was that “My friends influenced me into bad behaviour and I did not frequently attend classes hence I failed in the National examinations”. This friend did not realise that she had a responsibility to say ‘NO’ to the bad team and move on with her life, but instead kept blaming her friends for her examination’s failure.
All these examples only show how mankind is a victim when it comes to rejecting responsibility for his own actions. One thing that has to be clear to all of us living today is that the only time when we can move forward is when we learn to accept and take responsibility of our actions. Whenever we take responsibility for our action, it is when we come up with resolutions on how to resolve the current problem and draw strategies on how to avoid repeating the same mistake in future.
The 2011 ‘Lifetime Achievement National Academy for Best selling Authors’ Award winner Brian Tracy said “Many people are so concerned with being right that all their mental energy is consumed by stonewalling, bluffing, blaming and denying. If you’re wrong, admit it and get on to the solution or the next step”. Now is the time that we have to wake up and take a stand to accept our mistakes and work to turn them into our stepping stones on our way to success!